When Curiosity Strikes

The beautiful tragedy of online dating…

As a believer that everything happens for a reason and that timing is truly an abstract idea that we often overlook, is online dating our way of taking control of love instead of letting things take their course?

Being in Gen-Z, we are known to do things out of the ordinary and on our own terms, whether its appropriate or not. But has this spike in online dating gone too far? Sure, its convenient and I myself find excitement in checking my likes on Hinge but is this contradicting the importance of timing and letting love take its course or is it just “keeping up with the times?”

When asking couples around my age where they met, majority responded back with a dating website. Yes there are success stories which should be acknowledged here however, I am curious about the idea of control. I recently went on a first date that then lead to 3, and I found myself opening my heart quicker than I normally would. Don’t get me wrong I was not in LOVE with this 6’4 stranger but I found myself questioning “Am I ready for this?” Meanwhile I am out here preaching that I want to be in a relationship and get frustrated at people who only want physical intimacy. We got along very well yet it all seemed rushed. From texting, to a first date, then a second and immediately a third. To discover the inevitable and be hit with the rejection of “I am not ready to be in a relationship” which may just mean “I am not that into you” but who knows… This experience has made me wonder if online dating just speeds up the process of relationships and nature is not being able to take its course. Has online dating spiked more situations of “right person wrong time?” Is online dating truly helpful or is it hurtful? What would have happened if I met these boys in person? I am not too sure nor will I ever know, yet it is something I truly think about.

I want to be clear that I am not here to shit on online dating and say its stupid, who knows I may find my husband on there, instead, I am bringing awareness to approaching online dating with curiosity and how it relates to the power of being in control. Majority of people love to be in control because it means they have some sort of power and being. When we drop the control and let things happen the way they are supposed to, we find ourselves less anxious and stressed because we no longer feel that sense of responsibility. If I were to drop the control, discontinue online dating, would I then find the love of my life? Or am I simply just limiting my options? And so the dating series continues…